“When we give cheerfully and accept gratefully, everyone is blessed.”

—Maya Angelou

One of the most impactful pearls of wisdom I received from a dear friend was that if you have the right people around, you never need to think of yourself. Why—because they will always be looking out for you and tending to your needs. So simple and so true.

Having that kind of support provides a great sense of relief and makes life a little less burdensome. You can share your joys and know that someone else will rejoice with you. On the flip side, when you experience tribulations, someone else can help you through the hardships. In a sense, they make your celebrations and difficulties their own. They want the very best for you and will keep encouraging you to be happy and have all of your greatest desires. They give you comfort when you need tenderness, and they stand by your side when you need the companionship. Isn’t that what we all are really looking for—people who understand us and will stick by us? Feeling happiness and security may come down to this mindset. There is plenty of good stuff to go around and you don’t have to take away from someone to have something for yourself. Keep wanting the best for others, encouraging positivity and offering good wishes. It always comes back around.

If we all take care of each other, then we too will be taken care of. It’s a circle of trust, community and pure love that we need to live by. They say that great things occur when we compile a series of small acts. Collectively and cumulatively they make a difference.

Can we all live in a way that allows us to give more and take less?

Can we push ourselves to help those in need even when we may not have enough to give?

Can we wish others well even if we are not experiencing the same joys in our own life?

Can we work to be more selfless than selfish?

We get to choose how we show up, how we respond, and who we are. I realize that it’s hard to take the higher road. We are human. Emotions are complex, feelings get hurt, and our own needs may be ignored. Regardless, we need to stay steadfast in doing for and thinking of others. As a result, it will help us feel good about ourselves. It works. It really works. And, I know we can all do better.

I write not because I have all of the answers. Quite the contrary—I write because I need these very reminders myself and putting them down allows me to refocus and shift to the right place when I lose my way.

The goal is to keep on a path of kindness and empathy. If we are better spouses, friends, family members, neighbors, and coworkers, we are stronger and more joyous individually and as a community. When we take care of one another, it changes lives for the better and makes adversities palatable. I am certain we can all extend our hearts and our hands a little further yet.

“No one has ever become poor by giving.”

—Anne Frank

Roopa Weber
About Roopa Weber
Roopa Weber is a blogger and children’s book author who aspires to inspire better lives through kindness and gratitude. Her motivation came from the values and love provided by her mother. Roopa wanted to find an avenue to instill her mother’s wisdom in her own daughter and carry the message forward generationally. And, so she wrote.